Comments on: Single Mothers: The Unintended Consequences http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/ Exploring the intersectio between personal faith and public life. Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:59:21 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sharon http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-5991 Sharon Wed, 19 Oct 2011 22:42:04 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-5991 I am a single mother. My son is now 11 and in honors. I bought my own home after financially struggling for several years trying to cover the cost of day care so I could go to work to provide for myself and my son.(which nearly put me in debt) Maybe the real benefit of marriage is having a dual income family, because trying to make it on one income today is nearly impossible. Out of wed lock pregnancy's will continue. How about more emotional support, mentoring etc to assist the hard working tax paying contributing mothers who are juggling to do it all alone. Those of us that do it well, well, finding a SUITABLE partner is not on the radar as having the time or extra funds for additioanl day care to have time for ourselves is not realistic. (unless of course you're fortunate to live near family or close friends who understand and are wlling to help) My son is a Boy Scout, a caring, responsible boy who lives in a happy stable home, thank you very much. I am a single mother. My son is now 11 and in honors. I bought my own home after financially struggling for several years trying to cover the cost of day care so I could go to work to provide for myself and my son.(which nearly put me in debt) Maybe the real benefit of marriage is having a dual income family, because trying to make it on one income today is nearly impossible.
Out of wed lock pregnancy’s will continue. How about more emotional support, mentoring etc to assist the hard working tax paying contributing mothers who are juggling to do it all alone.
Those of us that do it well, well, finding a SUITABLE partner is not on the radar as having the time or extra funds for additioanl day care to have time for ourselves is not realistic. (unless of course you’re fortunate to live near family or close friends who understand and are wlling to help)
My son is a Boy Scout, a caring, responsible boy who lives in a happy stable home, thank you very much.

]]> By: mojo http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-5938 mojo Tue, 11 Oct 2011 09:12:31 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-5938 As a single mother of three boys, I do know i didn't ask to be a single mother and truly believe i made the choice to have them and i will care for the life i created ( unlike there father) (guess i was the only one who was involved ) Anyway i do know i tried my best to raise them right, However i also know as my oldest was about 10 the government gave the children more rights then the parents and with that how is any single family suppose to raise there children correctly... really parents cant even go into the doctor room with their child (as of age 13 ) if that child dont want you too, but yet who pays that insurances premium every month? And kids can tell the doctor anything and the doctor cant tell you what they talked about.And you say kids are the way they are because of single mother parenting.. well im not so sure about that... As a single mother of three boys, I do know i didn’t ask to be a single mother and truly believe i made the choice to have them and i will care for the life i created ( unlike there father) (guess i was the only one who was involved ) Anyway i do know i tried my best to raise them right, However i also know as my oldest was about 10 the government gave the children more rights then the parents and with that how is any single family suppose to raise there children correctly… really parents cant even go into the doctor room with their child (as of age 13 ) if that child dont want you too, but yet who pays that insurances premium every month? And kids can tell the doctor anything and the doctor cant tell you what they talked about.And you say kids are the way they are because of single mother parenting.. well im not so sure about that…

]]> By: Dan http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-5937 Dan Tue, 11 Oct 2011 08:01:56 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-5937 I am dating a single never married mom of three older boys. Her opinion is clearly stated that her children come first. This opinion is embraced by a lot of single mothers. This also is the downfall. In a family especially one where two adults (man and woman) are in cohabitation placing children first undermines the support the man can instill. It effectively neutralizes what could be his beneficial cooperative parenting. The problem is that a lot of these types of mothers want to engage in relationships but are afraid to share the responsibility with the other adult because they feel they owe that to their kids. They try to protect their kids and defend them from the other adult. (In my case, I have two kids of my own who visit. This mother doesn't see the harm she does when she doesn't let me co-parent her children with her.) Single moms do not realize or simply refuses to admit that by doing that they are demonstrating negative attitudes to her kids. The kids see and come to believe that they are above other authority figures. They learn that they can get their way and they start interacting with society in the same manner that has been demonstrated in the home. Then the mom wonders why her kids wont listen to her, when she wouldn't accept the willing and necessarily help to get that desirable result. These children act out. In my situation, I would point out to MOM that they (the kids) have all the benefits of a paying member of the household with absolutely none of the responsibility. Cable TV in their rooms, Unlimited access to anything in the kitchen at any time. Unlimited access to the internet anytime. Pretty much anything they have asked for they receive regardless of attitude, grades or willingness to productively participate in household chores and family involvement. They already get everything and then some. So i suggest to start from scratch and remove these freedoms to get the children back on track That is the only way to get the desired result. Also (*as my situation goes) it does not help to be a paying adult and to be relegated to the status below the children, it is degrading and sends another message to the children that I am not an authority figure, which is totally ass backwards to what should be. The paying adults should be making the decisions, not the kids. The paying adults need to work together, not separately. The Slate should be wiped clean and the kids should be forced to earn their privileges. Many single mothers confuse these things with being a child's right. Also, if a single mom has a male partner who is more than just a casual fling, then that man should take center stage in saying what goes on along side her, not her kids. Stop catering to the delinquent behavior of children by allowing them to rule and reign above the ones who provide support to them. It gives them unrealistic ideals which once they are turned out into society they are unprepared to deal with. They either re-learn real fast that everything they took for granted is now something they have to work for, or they slide down the slippery slope of despair and become yet another failed statistic. I am dating a single never married mom of three older boys. Her opinion is clearly stated that her children come first. This opinion is embraced by a lot of single mothers. This also is the downfall. In a family especially one where two adults (man and woman) are in cohabitation placing children first undermines the support the man can instill. It effectively neutralizes what could be his beneficial cooperative parenting. The problem is that a lot of these types of mothers want to engage in relationships but are afraid to share the responsibility with the other adult because they feel they owe that to their kids. They try to protect their kids and defend them from the other adult. (In my case, I have two kids of my own who visit. This mother doesn’t see the harm she does when she doesn’t let me co-parent her children with her.) Single moms do not realize or simply refuses to admit that by doing that they are demonstrating negative attitudes to her kids. The kids see and come to believe that they are above other authority figures. They learn that they can get their way and they start interacting with society in the same manner that has been demonstrated in the home. Then the mom wonders why her kids wont listen to her, when she wouldn’t accept the willing and necessarily help to get that desirable result. These children act out. In my situation, I would point out to MOM that they (the kids) have all the benefits of a paying member of the household with absolutely none of the responsibility. Cable TV in their rooms, Unlimited access to anything in the kitchen at any time. Unlimited access to the internet anytime. Pretty much anything they have asked for they receive regardless of attitude, grades or willingness to productively participate in household chores and family involvement. They already get everything and then some. So i suggest to start from scratch and remove these freedoms to get the children back on track That is the only way to get the desired result. Also (*as my situation goes) it does not help to be a paying adult and to be relegated to the status below the children, it is degrading and sends another message to the children that I am not an authority figure, which is totally ass backwards to what should be. The paying adults should be making the decisions, not the kids. The paying adults need to work together, not separately. The Slate should be wiped clean and the kids should be forced to earn their privileges. Many single mothers confuse these things with being a child’s right. Also, if a single mom has a male partner who is more than just a casual fling, then that man should take center stage in saying what goes on along side her, not her kids. Stop catering to the delinquent behavior of children by allowing them to rule and reign above the ones who provide support to them. It gives them unrealistic ideals which once they are turned out into society they are unprepared to deal with. They either re-learn real fast that everything they took for granted is now something they have to work for, or they slide down the slippery slope of despair and become yet another failed statistic.

]]> By: Stephanie Cox http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-4927 Stephanie Cox Sun, 27 Mar 2011 21:26:29 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-4927 I am very anxious about the upcoming election. When I think about everything that is occuring in Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Middle East (not to mention the U.S. economy) we positively should be looking for a superior leader. I'm not at all convinced that President Obama or any of the Republican contenders so far have the experience or skills it takes to get the job done the way it has to be accomplished. Being president of the U.S. is an remarkably hard job. Do you think there is someone out there with the experience, skill, and moral courage to do the job? I am very anxious about the upcoming election. When I think about everything that is occuring in Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Middle East (not to mention the U.S. economy) we positively should be looking for a superior leader. I’m not at all convinced that President Obama or any of the Republican contenders so far have the experience or skills it takes to get the job done the way it has to be accomplished. Being president of the U.S. is an remarkably hard job. Do you think there is someone out there with the experience, skill, and moral courage to do the job?

]]> By: The Author of America by Heart Made a Profound “Choice” | My Fun Blog http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-2400 The Author of America by Heart Made a Profound “Choice” | My Fun Blog Tue, 14 Dec 2010 11:14:36 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-2400 [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent. [...] [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent. [...]

]]> By: The GOP and Palin Lack Common Cents « Malia Litman's Blog http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-1727 The GOP and Palin Lack Common Cents « Malia Litman's Blog Mon, 11 Oct 2010 12:44:49 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-1727 [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent.  [...] [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent.  [...]

]]> By: The Cost of Sarah Palin’s “Choice” « Malia Litman's Blog http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-1218 The Cost of Sarah Palin’s “Choice” « Malia Litman's Blog Mon, 24 May 2010 15:19:00 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-1218 [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent. [...] [...] The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison was that the criminal was raised by a single parent. [...]

]]> By: Adam Brooks http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-1076 Adam Brooks Wed, 12 May 2010 14:54:53 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-1076 Happy Mother's Day to all."~, Happy Mother’s Day to all.”~,

]]> By: Stephen Buck http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-1074 Stephen Buck Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:43:16 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-1074 As a single-parent child, I couldn't disagree more. My father is a multi-generational mental and physical child abuser, right-wing religious superstitious nut job that thinks he's a genius and continually makes fun of people and plays tricks on them. I would take any and all the supposed disadvantages I had plus many more to avoid having to have been under this guy's roof....ever. If it weren't for my mother's protective measures and personal struggles as a divorced mom back when divorces were rare, I might not have been alive today to proudly report that I'm a liberal militant atheist who supports vast individual freedom of thought and action, and collective safety nets. You people who think that your censorship and dulling the spirit of people somehow makes for better citizens is just downright sick and disgusting. It's your conservative laws that broke the back of the black family, just like you did with the temperance movement. Hopefully we are now seeing this and are wising up to the totalitarian sham. As a single-parent child, I couldn’t disagree more. My father is a multi-generational mental and physical child abuser, right-wing religious superstitious nut job that thinks he’s a genius and continually makes fun of people and plays tricks on them. I would take any and all the supposed disadvantages I had plus many more to avoid having to have been under this guy’s roof….ever.

If it weren’t for my mother’s protective measures and personal struggles as a divorced mom back when divorces were rare, I might not have been alive today to proudly report that I’m a liberal militant atheist who supports vast individual freedom of thought and action, and collective safety nets. You people who think that your censorship and dulling the spirit of people somehow makes for better citizens is just downright sick and disgusting. It’s your conservative laws that broke the back of the black family, just like you did with the temperance movement. Hopefully we are now seeing this and are wising up to the totalitarian sham.

]]> By: Stephen Buck http://www.faithandfacts.com/economy/single-mothers-the-unintended-consequences/comment-page-1/#comment-1073 Stephen Buck Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:31:56 +0000 http://www.faithandfacts.com/?p=1917#comment-1073 Your racism is thinly disguised. Decriminalize non-violent offenses and your numbers will trip all over themselves. Your racism is thinly disguised. Decriminalize non-violent offenses and your numbers will trip all over themselves.

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