If it weren’t for my mother’s protective measures and personal struggles as a divorced mom back when divorces were rare, I might not have been alive today to proudly report that I’m a liberal militant atheist who supports vast individual freedom of thought and action, and collective safety nets. You people who think that your censorship and dulling the spirit of people somehow makes for better citizens is just downright sick and disgusting. It’s your conservative laws that broke the back of the black family, just like you did with the temperance movement. Hopefully we are now seeing this and are wising up to the totalitarian sham.

http://www.bestinterestofchildren.org/

A very special article written by one of those moms who opted to do it on her own brings real clarity to this topic.

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry

there is more going on here than meets the eye and the issues are so very complex we can’t point to this survey or that survey but need to gather up a host of expert studies from the kind of experts who’ve been inoculated against politically correct attitudes.

God’s plan worked. Man has either dismissed His plan, or considered it and decided his was better.

One aspect of this issue that I did not catch in the post or the comments is the effect of ego gratification on reproduction and family. Any woman or man today believes it is perfectly fine to create a single-parent family on purpose. Actresses want a child; they either have one with no father in mind, adopt one, or design one using a surrogate or in vitro. Gay or lesbians want children. They order, adopt or design one.

Too many children enter homes because the homeowner “wants one.” They don’t give up their day jobs, but they get to play at parenting.

Society must accept single-parent status as equal to traditional families or the “beautiful” people would lose their followers. That one woman without a means of support could create eight babies to add to the six she had already “ordered” is testimony to the state of our public heart.

Wild horses have more respect for their offspring than humans. They know how to order the herd in order to protect and raise the foals. Stallions do what they do and the mares are responsible and committed. Not so many humans.

There will always be single-parent families. But now they are by design.

Interesting. Will bookmark your site.

I blogged on this a while ago with regards to the murder of 8-year-old Victoria Stafford in Woodstock, Ontario. Everybody in the story–the girl’s parents, the two murderers, even the murderers’ parents, were from divorced or never married families where cohabitation abounded.

It was tragic.

Married parents tend to be more stable. It is easier for them to watch the kids. Society has a vested interest in protecting marriage, and we seem to have forgotten that.

Relationships are very fast-paced (technology to blame?). Kids who gets into a sort of ‘love affair’ gets younger and younger. The times are very liberated that’s. Love gets too much of a personal gratification for most of us rather than to complete the ‘partner’s life’,

I think this is the reason why many single moms have turned to be what they are now. Very little are keeping a serious perspective about treasuring a relationship and making it ast as they put it ‘a lifetime’.

Of course, for the single moms, I think they really are heroines.

I see you are getting some passionate feedback here. I think I understand and agree with what you are saying. Perhaps the intorduction was a little unclear and led some people to believe you were blaming all, or most single moms for these statistics.

I know from reading your other efforts that this is not the case. These situations are mulitfaceted obviously. We all know that single moms more often than not have a touch time of it, alone, trying to make ends meet. I do agree though, that making all single moms into Joan of Arc, which is what some I know what to think of themselves as, is a problem.

Aside all the semantics, I do not doubt the numbers, or least of all this administration’s “padding” of key positions with super-duper liberals. Our PR news is full each day with instances of key officials headed in some far out direction which should take us all directly where we were headed under other administrations – down.

Kids have a particularly difficult time, and I disagree with those who put all the “angelic” praise on mothers (or fathers) doing what they should do. Life is about necessity a good deal of the time, and daycare just might be one of those. This is a 50/50 proposition Doc. Whether a single parent family is headed by a mom or a day, each bear a burden of guilt in either not making things work out (either in or out of wedlock).

A child coming home to a warm, safe, and nourishing environment is what is important. We hear stories all the time about moms that worked two jobs and raised wonderful people. Sports heroes, politicians, business people, and endless parade of success stories. So what is the problem?

One I can think of, is lazy, crazy, self aggrandizing single parents 8of any persuasion) leaning on anything except their God given ability to work and make things right somehow. True the world is unforgiving, and sometimes events make things seemingly impossible. Where there is a will, there is usually a way. So often, that way is the easy way out, excuses, booze, bad lifestyles, and the end of anger and hurt of what has been “done” to people.

I do not think any sane person would disagree with your premise with regard to the degredation and decline of society in the US, or anywhere else for that matter. I applaud you for having the courage to at least point out these problems. Even if your message seemed inflamatory to some. Sometimes life is tough, so just take the message, receive the good in it, and go forward and do the best you can.

Quit whining single parents, and do your job with all your might.

Thanks sincerely,

Mig